Luke 15:11-32
We have all had the experience of being ashamed of
ourselves. We had done, said, or thought
something which probably seemed fine to us at the time, but which we later
realized was simply terrible. Sometimes
when that happens, we catch a glimpse of truth about ourselves that is hard to bear. Sometimes when that happens, we are paralyzed
by shame, by a prideful refusal to accept in humility that we—like everyone
else in this life—are very far from perfect and in constant need of our Lord’s
mercy and grace. Those who remain stuck
in the rut of shame will face great obstacles in finding healing for their
souls.
The
prodigal son in today’s gospel reading provides a wonderful example of how to get
over wounded pride and repent of even the most shameful acts. Remember that this fellow had given his
father the ultimate insult by asking for his inheritance, which was basically
to tell the old man that he was tired of waiting for him to die. The father apparently meant nothing to this son
other than as a source of cash that he could use to fund a debauched life. The young man was apparently blind to the
gravity of what he had done until he found himself in truly wretched
circumstances, especially for a Jew. In
a foreign land, he tended pigs and was so hungry that he envied the food of the
swine. Then it dawned on him what he had
done. He came to himself and began the
long journey home, knowing that the most he could possibly expect from his
father was to become one of his hired servants. When he finally arrived at
home, he said, “Father, I have sinned against heaven and before you; I am no
longer worthy to be called your son.” The son knew what he had done, made no
excuses, and was not going to ask anything from the father other than to become
one of his hired hands. He knew the
seemingly irreparable harm that he had done.
He had come to see clearly the seriousness of his rotten behavior. He was well aware that his father owed him
nothing at all. He was totally dependent
upon his mercy.
Before we
continue with the story of the parable, we should pause to admire the courage
and humility of the prodigal son. After
seeing how horribly he had treated his father, he refused to be paralyzed by
shame. He began the journey home,
accepted the truth about what he had done, and was ready to accept whatever
rejection, criticism, or awkwardness resulted from daring to show his face to
the father whom he had rejected. At this
point, he had no illusions about himself, his behavior, or how it had impacted
others. He knew that he could hope, at
the very most, to return to the household as a servant, not a son. Nonetheless, he still took the long journey
home.
Had the son
not done so, he would not have put himself in the place where it was possible
for him to receive his father’s unbelievable mercy. The father ran out to greet him when he was
still a long way off, which shows that the old man had been scanning the horizon
and hoping for this moment. When the father embraced him, the son said, “Father,
I have sinned against heaven and before you; I am no longer worthy to be called
your son.” But before he could ask to
become only a servant in the household, the father restored him fully as a son
with a robe, a ring, shoes, and a party with music, dancing, and a great feast.
For from the father’s perspective, he was not simply forgiving someone who had
rejected and insulted him. No, he was celebrating a resurrection: “for this my
son was dead, and is alive again; he was lost, and is found.”
Most of us do not have to think very hard to
recognize times in our lives when we have done, said, or thought shameful
things. We usually do not like to be
reminded of them because they challenge our pride. Unfortunately, some of us go through life
with a crippling sense of shame, which is more a reflection of our refusal to
accept in humility the truth about ourselves than of anything else. If we have the proper attitude, the
intensified spiritual disciplines of the coming weeks of Great Lent can help to
heal us from shame, for they are not only for you, me, or anyone else in
particular. They are a common calling of
the Church because we have all sinned and fallen short of the glory of God. We have all failed to love the Lord with
every ounce of our being and our neighbors as ourselves. We are not perfect as our Heavenly Father is
perfect. We have all turned away from fulfilling our vocation to become ever
more like God in holiness. That is why
we all need the coming weeks of intensified prayer, fasting, generosity to the
poor, and repentance. Through them, we
will come to know our true spiritual state more clearly and open ourselves more
fully to receive the mercy of our Lord.
Before the infinite holiness of
God, we are all guilty of shameful thoughts, words, and deeds, but none of us
should be stuck in a rut of pride that keeps us from taking the journey
home. Some disregard Lent and avoid
Confession because they cannot believe that God would ever really forgive them
for what they have done. Today’s parable
is a good remedy for that attitude, for the father in the story is an image of
our Heavenly Father, Whose love is such that He will restore our dignity as His
sons and daughters through our repentance.
His abundant mercy is eternal, but we must respond as the prodigal son. That means acknowledging our failings, sincerely
regretting them, knowing that we deserve nothing by our own merits, and actually
beginning the journey home.
As we prepare for the spiritual
disciplines of Lent, we must all keep the lessons of this parable squarely in
mind, for it provides such a powerful image of what happens when we come to our
senses and recognize our sins, turn away from them, and turn toward the
Lord. The overwhelming mercy of the
father in the story is an image of the abundant grace of God. For He does not settle simply with
forgiveness, but restores us fully to the dignity of His sons and
daughters. He makes us true participants
in eternal life by grace, not hired hands with some low level of blessing who
somehow sneak into the Kingdom through the backdoor. He does not scold or shame us, but truly
welcomes us home with love beyond what we can understand.
Sin is
shameful because it is ultimately a rejection of our Lord and His blessed
purposes for us. Repentance, however, is
never shameful because it is an acceptance of our Lord and His blessed purposes
for us. How tragic it would have been
for the prodigal son to have remained as a starving laborer on a pig farm due
to wounded pride, for him to have chosen such lonely misery over the joyful restoration
that he found when he went home. The
same is true for us, no matter what we have done, thought, or said, no matter
how far we have strayed from our Heavenly Father.
The
prodigal son’s return home was a resurrection from death to life, which is why
his father called for such a great celebration.
Lent prepares us to follow our Savior to His Cross and the glory of the
empty tomb at Pascha. We must die to sin
so that we will be prepared to behold with joy our Lord’s victory over death
and to enter into eternal celebration of the Heavenly Banquet. There is no shame in preparing ourselves to
accept such a great invitation. In fact,
the only shame would be if we refused to accept it out of wounded pride.