But if we are not careful, we will
forget what kind of a Father He is. We
may think of Him as an old man with a white beard in heaven, or as our own
biological father somehow made divine, or as a stern, unforgiving authority
figure. When we do, we should remember
that God the Father has never had a human body, that He is not a male human
being, and that we know Him only through the Son, through the Incarnation, teaching
and example of our Lord, God, and Savior Jesus Christ.
Today’s gospel text shows us
important truths about God the Father, for it is a shocking and surprising
story about how a human father responded to the shameful rebellion of his
son. The man had two sons. The youngest insulted his father by asking for
his inheritance, which was the same as telling the old man that he wished he
were dead. The father did not beat him
or cast him out of the family or refuse his request. Instead, he gave him the money and let him
go. That may have been the hardest thing
that man ever did: accepting his son’s
insult with humility and giving him the freedom to leave home and grow up the
hard way, in what is sometimes called the school of hard knocks. At the risk of never seeing the young man
again, the father complied with his son’s request.
The son then did what many young men
would do with a great amount of money.
He left town and spent all his money on wine, women, and song. That is, he wasted the hard-earned savings of
his father on the kind of immoral behavior St. Paul condemned in today’s
epistle reading. He soon ran out of
money and became desperately poor. In a
foreign country, he took a job feeding pigs and was so hungry that he envied
their slop. Eventually, the young man
came to himself and realized that he would be better off as a servant in his
father’s house than in his current state.
So he resolved to go home, to take responsibility for his terrible
behavior, and acknowledge that he was not worthy to be called a son
anymore. He wanted only to be one of the
father’s hired servants, and he knew that he did not deserve even that.
But when the young man was still a
great way off from home, he saw an old man running toward him. It was his father, who must have kept watch
every day, scanning the horizons in hope that his son would one day
return. On that day, he rushed out to
meet his son, had compassion on him, and hugged and kissed him. The son began his rehearsed speech to confess
his sins, but the father was so overjoyed at his return that he apparently did not
even pay attention. Instead, he gave him
a new set of clothes and began a party, for his son—who was dead—was alive
again; he who had been lost was now found, was now restored to his family.
We now stand two weeks before the
beginning of Great Lent, the most intense time of spiritual discipline in the
church year. Time and again, the
services, readings, and prayers of the Church will call us to be like the
prodigal son, to come to ourselves and return to the Father. I know that some of us find all this talk
about repentance to be scary and frustrating.
We are afraid that God will not forgive us, that He will not take us
back, because of what we have done, thought, and said. We may be tempted not to observe Lent at all,
not to take any steps of repentance, because we think that there would be no
point. We may have already given up on
ourselves and on God.
Probably some of our own biological
fathers would not have taken us back had we behaved like the prodigal son. Perhaps
we would have a hard time accepting our own children, spouse, family members,
or friends back into our lives if they acted like he did. But in God the Father we do not deal with a
human authority figure or with a creature weakened by passions and sins as we
are. Instead, we deal with a Divine Father
Who gave His only begotten Son that all who believe in Him should not perish,
but have everlasting life. Like the
father in the parable, God the Father is not out to punish sinners or to
collect a debt. Instead, He is eager to
forgive, eternally waiting for us to return so that He can restore us to the
dignity and glory for which we were created as his sons and daughters. But we have to do our part by coming to our senses,
returning home, and accepting His forgiveness with humility.
We often forget that God’s
compassion, love, and forgiveness are not passing emotions like we
experience. In ways that we cannot
understand, they are abiding characteristics of God. Unlike human beings, we do not have to catch
Him in a good mood to receive His mercy.
We do not have to give Him time to cool down after getting angry at us,
for He is not angry. Like the prodigal
son, we bear the consequences of our actions; we suffer, not because God has
decided to do us harm, but because we have chosen to harm ourselves by
preferring our own will to His, by turning away from our true identity, dignity,
and calling as those created in His image and likeness. What we experience as God’s anger is simply
the consequence of refusing to accept His love, of refusing to live as His blessed
sons and daughters.
Nonetheless, with mercy and humility
beyond what we can imagine, God the Father waits for us this Lent to come to
our senses, to recognize what we have done to ourselves with our sins and
passions. Like the father in the
parable, He gives us the freedom to make mistakes and to learn from them. He never forces us to do anything. And no matter how far we fall, no matter how
low we go in life, He is eternally watching for us, ready to run and embrace
us, to restore us as His beloved daughters and sons, and to celebrate our
return.
Nothing that we do or do not do this
Lent will change God the Father in any way.
He has already given His only-begotten Son to conquer sin and death and
bring us into the eternal life of the Holy Trinity. The Holy Spirit proceeds eternally from the
Father and has been sent to us by the Son.
Our bodies are already temples of the Holy Spirit. Through the life of the Church, we have every
possible means of sharing fully in the eternal life of God.
So we have nothing at all to fear
from repentance, even if we have fallen into behavior of which we are ashamed
and embarrassed, like the sexual sins of the Corinthians which St. Paul
addressed in today’s epistle reading. Contrary
to popular opinion today, there is nothing new under the sun. Marriage between one man and one woman is the
only context in which sexual intimacy may occur with God’s blessing and in
accordance with His will. Anything else
is sinful, a corruption of what it means for us to live as temples of the Holy
Spirit who are created male and female in God’s image and likeness. No matter our age or life circumstances, we should
all avoid any entertainment, relationships, or habits that tempt us toward any other
patterns of behavior. We must control our
thoughts in this and other areas of weakness in our lives, using the Jesus Prayer
to redirect our energies toward God and away from indulging in self-centered desire.
Regardless of what particular sins
we have committed, our Father is not out to punish or embarrass us; neither
does He need a payment in order to earn His forgiveness. All that He wants us to do is to come to
ourselves, to see the truth about the mess we have made of our lives, and begin
the journey home. That is why we fast,
pray, give alms, reconcile with enemies, confess our sins, and devote extra
time and energy to the spiritual life in Great Lent. These practices help us to see how we have weakened
and distorted ourselves with sin. They
help us to gain insight on how far we have fallen from the glory intended for
the children of God. We do these
practices, not to change God, but to change us:
to bring us to the point where we know in our hearts that we have
rejected our Father, chosen the pig pen of our passions over holiness, and are
not worthy to be called the sons and daughters of the Most High.
And the instant that we do, we open
ourselves to receive the eternal mercy of God the Father through His Son Jesus
Christ by the power of the Holy Spirit.
This is the good news of the gospel that we proclaim in preparation for
Lent, for it is time to come to our senses and return to the Father Whose love,
mercy, and forgiveness are beyond anything that we can imagine. No matter what we have done, He runs out with open
arms to welcome us home.