Saturday, December 8, 2012

"Woman, You Are Loosed": Homily for St. Anna's Conception of the Theotokos



Epistle to the Galatians 4:22-27
Gospel According to St. Luke 13:10-17
            None of us likes to be sick.  It’s very frustrating to want to get up and do what you want to do and not to be able to do so.  Illness separates us from our usual activities and relationships, and even from our selves.  When our lives revolve around our own pain and disability, we aren’t really ourselves anymore.  And that’s just a miserable way to be. 
            When Jesus Christ was teaching in a synagogue on the Sabbath, he saw a woman who was bent over and could not stand up straight.  She had been that way for eighteen years.  Just think of how she felt, how limiting and frustrating that illness had to be.  The Lord said to her, “Woman, you are loosed from your infirmity.”  Then He laid hands on her and she was healed, was able to stand up straight again, and she glorified God.
            But there were those standing around just waiting to criticize the Lord, for He healed her on the Sabbath day, when no work was to be done.  Christ answered these critics by pointing out that everyone takes care of his donkey and ox on the Sabbath.  “So ought not this woman, being a daughter of Abraham, whom Satan has bound—think of it—for eighteen years, be loosed from this bond on the Sabbath?”  The truth of His teaching was so clear that those adversaries were put to shame and the people rejoiced.
            In these weeks of the Nativity Fast, of Advent, we are preparing to celebrate the wonderful news of the Incarnation of the Son of God, of our Lord’s birth at Christmas.  And we see in this gospel text a beautiful image of what Jesus Christ has done for us by becoming a human being.  For every one of us is like that poor woman bound with an infirmity for eighteen years, unable to straighten herself up.
             For we live in a world of corruption, of illness, pain, and death.  We don’t like to think about it, but there are harsh, impersonal realities from which we can’t isolate ourselves. The horrors of war, crime, and terrorism; the ecological effects of pollution; cycles of violence, abuse, and brokenness in families and in society; and the inevitability of the grave: We don’t have to look far to find ways in which we are held captive.
            We all have diseases of soul, of personality, of behavior, and of relationships that cripple us, that keep us from acting, thinking, and speaking as the children of God.  For we have all fallen short of God’s purposes for us, as has every generation since Adam and Eve.  And we are all bent over and crippled in profound ways in relation to the Lord, our neighbors, and even ourselves.   
            Joachim and Anna knew all about long-term struggles and disabilities, for like Abraham and Sarah they were childless into their old age.  But God heard their prayer and gave them Mary, who would in turn give birth to the Savior who came to liberate us all from sin and death.  Today is the feast of St. Anna’s conception of the Theotokos which we celebrate as a foreshadowing of the coming of the Lord to loose us from the infirmities that hold us captive and hinder our participation even now in the life of the Kingdom.
            The story of the Old Testament unfolded through the family of Abraham, who was told by God that he would be the father of a large, blessed family.   Many Jews continue to think of life after death as being accomplished through ongoing generations of children and grandchildren, not by victory over death itself.  But if God’s blessings extend no further than the grave, then we will never be loosed from bondage to the wages of sin, which is death.  
            The history of the Hebrews was preparatory for the coming of the Christ, the Messiah in whom God’s promises are fulfilled and extended to all who have faith in the Savior, regardless of their family heritage.  Christ did not come to privilege one nation over another, but to fulfill our original calling to be in the image and likeness of God; and, yes, that means to share in the eternal life of the Holy Trinity as distinct, unique persons.          God breaks the laws of nature in order to do so, enabling elderly women to conceive and bear children and a young virgin to become the mother of His Son Who Himself rises from the dead.  Yes, this is a story of liberation, of breaking bonds, and of transcending the brokenness and limitations of life in the world in the world as know it.   
            Fortunately, the Lord did not treat the woman in today’s reading according to her physical condition as simply a bundle of disease, even as St. Anna’s fate was not to be defined by barrenness.  Instead, He gave her back her true identity as a beloved person, a daughter of Abraham.  And on that particular Sabbath day, that’s what Jesus Christ did.  He treated her as a unique, cherished child of God who was not created for a corrupt, impersonal existence of pain, disease, and despair, but for blessing, health, and joy.  She glorified God for this deliverance, as did those who saw the miracle.
            The good news of Christmas is that the Lord is born to do the same for us and for the whole world, to set us free from the slavery to decay, corruption, and weakness that distort and weaken us all.  He comes so that we are no longer defined by our infirmities and can leave behind our bondage and enter into the joyous freedom of the children of God.  He comes to restore us as living icons who manifest Christ’s glory and salvation in unique, personal ways.  Have you ever noticed that icons portray people as distinctive persons, that the personality and character of the Theotokos or St. John the Baptist or St. Luke shines through their icons?
            The same should be true of us.  We become not less ourselves, but more truly ourselves, when we open our lives to Christ’s holiness and healing.  In contrast, sin and corruption are pretty boring.  No matter how creative we try to be, there are only so many ways to hate, lie, cheat, and steal.  You can only say so much about murder and adultery.  Holiness, on the other hand, is infinitely beautiful and fascinating.  For the more we share in the life of the Holy Trinity, the more we see that the process of our fulfillment in God is eternal, that there is no end to it or to Him.  And since our fundamental calling as human beings is to grow in the likeness of God, we become more truly ourselves—as distinct, unique persons-- whenever we turn away from slavery to sin and passion in order to embrace more fully the new life that Christ has brought to the world.
            Unfortunately, people in our culture usually do not view Advent and Christmas as opportunities to be loosed from our bondage to sin and death.  Too often, we turn them into occasions for strengthening our addiction to money and possessions, to excessive food and drink, and unhealthy relationships with others.  Of course, that’s really a way of saying that self-centered indulgence is nothing but bondage to ourselves, which ends up leaving us hollow and miserable.  And that’s not surprising because we weren’t created to find eternal fulfillment and peace in the things of the world, even in one another.  That’s why we must resist the cultural temptation to be so busy with shopping and planning and partying this time of year that we ignore the glory and gravity of our Lord’s Incarnation.  For He comes to make us all the sons and daughters of God, to extend to us all the blessing and joy of the heavenly kingdom, to loose us from our weakness and infirmity, and to conquer sin and death in us.   
            So let us not remain stooped over, bound, and barren this Advent.     Instead, let us use the remaining weeks of this holy season to prepare to receive the Christ who heals us, who sets us free, and who makes us the unique, distinctive children of God we were created to be in the first place.  Let us embrace our spiritual disciplines with joy, fighting our passions and serving Christ in our neighbors, especially those who are lonely and in need.  For we, too, have become the daughters and sons of Abraham in Christ Jesus; we too are have been loosed and are to glorify God by living as those who have found new life in the Second Adam, the God-Man, Jesus Christ, the One who comes to us at Christmas.  Now is the time to get ready for Him.  


   

Wednesday, December 5, 2012

Memory Eternal!: His Beatitude Patriarch Ignatius IV of Antioch and All the East

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Patriarch Ignatius IV of Antioch Has Reposed after Suffering Stroke

Patriarch Ignatius IV Hazim of Antioch and all the East passed away on Wednesday after suffering from a stroke.He was admitted to Saint Georges Hospital after suffering from a stroke on Tuesday.
Born in 1921 in Mhardeh in Syria’s Hama province, he pursued his studies at the American University of Beirut and soon entered the service of the local Orthodox diocese.
He was one of the founders of the Orthodox Youth Movement in 1942.
He was appointed as bishop in 1961 and was elected as the Metropolitan of the Latakia province in Syria in 1970.
He was elected as patriarch of the Antioch and all the East in 1979.
Source: Naharnet
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Monday, December 3, 2012

The Blind Beggar Receives His Sight: Homily for the 26th Sunday after Pentecost in the Orthodox Church


St. Luke 18: 35-43
Ephesians 5: 8-19
We have probably all had moments in our lives when we couldn’t see very well.  Maybe the power went out at night at home, our eyes took a while to adjust after walking out of movie theater, we lost our glasses, or we were headed east or west at just the right time to be blinded by the light of the sun.   Unfortunately, we have also had moments when we have been blind in other ways when our actions, words, and thoughts went against God’s purposes for our lives.   In fact, it’s an ongoing struggle to have a clear take on how what we do each day impacts our souls, as well as our neighbors in whom we encounter the Lord.
St. Paul reminded the Ephesians that they had come out of the darkness of paganism and immorality by putting on Christ in baptism and the life of His body, the Church.  Instead of returning to the shadowy ways of the world, he called them to turn on the lights, see the truth about themselves, and live accordingly.  “Awake from sleep, rise from the dead, and Christ will give you light,” he tells them.  It’s not a time to be in a drunken stupor or to be lulled into complacency in any other way, but instead to be alert and focused so that we won’t be lulled back into the darkness.  
Our Savior, in His earthly ministry, certainly healed many blind people.  We read in today’s gospel text of a blind beggar who was so eager to see that he would not stop yelling out, “Jesus, Son of David, have mercy on me!” as the Lord passed by.  Even though others told the man to be quiet and not to cause a scene, he continued to plead for healing.  He succeeded in getting Christ’s attention, and He asked the man a simple question:  “What do you want me to do for you?”  The blind man responded, “Lord, that I may receive my sight.”  Christ said, “Receive your sight; your faith has made you well.”  Immediately he could see again and began to follow the Lord and to glorify God.
Unlike the Gentiles we mentioned earlier, this fellow was Jewish and waiting for a Messiah to fulfill God’s promises to Israel.  But he was not able to see the Savior as He passed by.  His eyes were shut to the Lord and to all the beauty of the creation.  He lived in darkness.  He was poor and wretched, a beggar, who could do nothing but call out for help from the Son of David, a common name for “the anointed one” whom the Jews expected.  And the man’s sufferings had made quite clear to him what he wanted:  to be able to see, for he was tired of living in darkness.  When the blind man had his chance, he took it—refusing to shut up when he heard that Christ was passing his way.
Of course, the man knew a portion of the truth.  He knew that Jesus was the Son of David, the Messiah, Who could miraculously restore his sight.  He had enough faith, enough trust in Christ, to ask for that.  His plea for mercy sounds like an early version of the Jesus Prayer.  But the man did not know that Jesus Christ is truly the Son of God.  Like the rest of the Jews, he was probably waiting for a Messiah who would be a great political and religious leader, not a Savior Who is both God and man.  Fortunately for him and the rest of us, Christ is not a stern master who has mercy only on those with perfect understanding.  He heard the man’s humble plea and restored his sight; then the man gave thanks to God and began to follow the Lord. 
Jesus Christ came to bring us all into the light of His life, regardless of whether we are Gentiles or Jews and no matter how we have lived or what we have done.  Just as a blind person could only beg and pray for a miracle in that time and place, we cannot force or earn our way into the blessed life of the Kingdom.  We all need His mercy.  But like both the blind man and the Ephesians, we have to do our part to become receptive to the light of Christ in our lives.
A person who keeps his eyes closed will never see the day or the beauty of the world.  Likewise, it is impossible for those who insist on filling their lives with darkness to receive the light of Christ.  If we are asleep, we are not awake.  If we insist on living in the shadows, we will never see clearly.
The good news is that we have already open our eyes to the light, for we have put on Christ in the waters of baptism, been sealed with the Holy Spirit in chrismation, and nourished with the Body and Blood of the Lord in the Eucharist.  Our eyes have been opened to behold the glory of the Lord.  We have entered into His house, the Church, and confessed Him in the words of the Creed and in our hearts.   Indeed, we know that we are able at any moment of the day to show the humble faith of the blind beggar through the words of the Jesus Prayer.
Nonetheless, our spiritual vision is still obscured by a measure of darkness.  We still look at other people with self-righteous judgment, envy, lust, and other bad attitudes.  We make hateful, profane, and other unedifying comments that make faithfulness harder for ourselves and other people.   We drift off to spiritual sleep thinking that we will find fulfillment in pleasure, possessions, and the praise of others.  We are lured powerfully back to the darkness in many ways.    So we continue to need therapy to help us keep our eyes open to the brilliant light of Christ, to the salvation that He has brought to the world.
That’s why it’s good that we have seasons like Advent to wake us up from our slumbers, to switch on the lights and tell us it’s time to wake up.  In these weeks of preparation for Christmas, all of us need to gain strength in resisting our self-centered desires by fasting or some other form of self-denial.  All of us need to place greater focus on prayer.   All of us need to confess our sins and turn away from them through repentance.  All of us need to give alms and become more generous to the needy with our time and resources.  All of us need to love and forgive our enemies.  In these ways, we all need to open our lives more fully to the light of Christ.    
At the same time, we also need to do everything that we can to shut out the darkness that so easily overtakes us.  Most of us probably do not have to look very closely at our lives to identify habits, weaknesses, relationships, or social settings that can dim the spiritual light pretty quickly.  We have to be prudent and persistent in discerning how to respond to those temptations, but it’s not our intelligence or will power that is our hope.  It’s the mercy of the Lord, the same One who responded to the plea of that blind beggar.  So when we are tempted to wallow in the darkness, we need to follow his example of calling out to Christ persistently with humility, asking for His forgiveness and healing.  That fellow would not shut up even when his pleas disturbed others, and we must learn not to abandon our spiritual disciplines, mindfulness, and prayers even when our thoughts, feelings, and friends want to lead us away from the light.    
Sometimes we feel like it will kill us to resist certain temptations.  Of course, that’s not true, but it is often how we feel.  We all need to cultivate the faith that Christ comes to heal and strengthen us, not to frustrate and destroy us.  The disciplines of Advent are not about legalism or causing inconvenience.  Instead, they are tools for our healing, ways for us to turn away from the darkness and to walk in the light, into a life where we are not the slaves of sin but embrace joyfully the glorious freedom of the children of God.   
No matter where we are in our journey to the Kingdom, we can all welcome the light of Christ more fully into our lives in the coming weeks.   No matter our measure of spiritual health or disease, we can open ourselves more fully to the mercy and healing of the Lord.  He made a blind beggar see and turned idol-worshipping pagans into saints.  And He will do the same for us, if we will only stay focused on Him and turn away from the many distractions that blind us to His truth.  As we prepare for Christmas, let’s do everything that we can to walk in the light of the Lord.     

Tuesday, November 27, 2012

After the Campaigns: Back to the Real Work of the Orthodox Christian Political Witness



            Since politics has received no small amount of attention in recent months, I thought that it would be good to remind ourselves that the primary political action of Orthodox Christians is not found in voting, carrying signs, spouting slogans, or putting bumper stickers on our cars.  Instead, our most fundamental political witness is to participate in the Divine Liturgy. No, that does not mean that the Christian life boils down simply to showing up at church, for to participate fully in the worship of God means that we live out our communion with the Holy Trinity every day of the week in all aspects of our lives.  The calling of the Christian life is to sanctify the world by offering every bit of the creation—including ourselves—to the Lord for fulfillment and transformation, for the holiness and peace of a Kingdom that radically transcends the broken and imperfect kingdoms of this world.     
            Granted, that may sound so mystical that it is hard to connect with something as practical as American politics. But perhaps that is precisely the point.  Christians are to be salt and light wherever they find themselves, not just another interest group worshiping at the altar of worldly glory and power.   How sad, then, that what passes for a spiritually informed political agenda often amounts to little more than politics as usual in our corrupt world.   Contrary to the hopes of religiously inspired voters of whatever ideological stripe, we will look in vain for substantive conversation about moral issues in the recently completed campaigns.
For example, discourse about society’s responsibility to unborn children and their distressed mothers was replaced by ham-fisted comments about rape, contraception, and an alleged “war against women.”  The glory of the union of man and woman, which alone brings forth new life as an image of the Holy Trinity from generation to generation, was obscured by our societal obsession about the rights of individuals to do as they please.  Economic theories—largely driven by the self-interest of various partisan groups-- took precedence over serious consideration of the common good in debates about poverty, health care, and environmental stewardship.   In other words, we endured well over a year’s worth of unedifying and interminable arguments that barely scratched the surface of an Orthodox vision of God’s purposes for the collective life of human beings.
            Well, big surprise.  Despite what politicians and their chaplains on the right and left proclaim, American elections are about little more than the competing interests of partisan groups for power.    Some of their spokespersons have been remarkably effective at times in convincing various segments of the Christian population that their agendas are virtually synonymous with the Kingdom of God.  But it doesn’t take much discernment to see that they all fall well short of such a high designation.  For example, women in difficult circumstances do not choose to have abortions in isolation from a whole set of social, economic, and moral circumstances which politicians seem to have no real interest in addressing seriously.  It’s much easier to cast a vote and denounce the opposition than to get to the heart of why our culture has formed so many people in such poor ways both morally and spiritually.      
Those who cheered for abortion rights as though they were applauding job creation displayed an appalling lack of moral sensitivity, even as they excluded the most vulnerable human beings from legal protection in the name of individual liberty.  How strange that those who support government regulation to protect the weak in so many other areas of social concern change their tune so radically on this issue.  Their sudden burst of libertarianism functions to obliterate any compassion for life in the womb, recognition of the legitimate stake of husbands and fathers in the fate of their offspring, and acknowledgement that the moral tragedy of abortion simply cannot fit within the happy narrative of freedom.     
When it comes to marriage and sexuality, mainstream American culture has lost virtually any sense of a sexual ethic more profound than the consent of individuals to do as they please with a nod toward public health.  In this context, chastity becomes a nonsensical notion even as the public square refuses to acknowledge that the union of man and woman holds a uniquely privileged place in all known human civilization.  In a society that is blind to the marital nature of intercourse, it would be shocking to have a substantive moral consensus about the meaning of marriage. In the absence of such convictions, we quickly revert to the default position of American politics:  individual liberty. If marriage is nothing more than a freely chosen romantic union of two individuals, no wonder that the obvious intersections of marriage, sex, and parenthood are so hard for many to see.      
That may be the politics of the world in which we live, but it’s not the social order of God’s reign.     We will not be salt and light in our darkened world by pretending that the spokespersons of the corrupt ways of living and thinking that got us into these messes will somehow magically become our saviors.  Instead, the primary political witness of Orthodox Christians is to become living icons of our Lord’s salvation on even the most difficult matters involving sex, money, and power.  Our witness—yes, how we live each day-- must stand in stark contrast to the ways of the world as a sign of the blessed life for which human beings are created.  Holiness in our parishes, our families, and all our relationships is our politics and the basis of how we offer the world, and ourselves, to God.  Now that the distractions of the campaign are behind us, let’s get busy with the real challenges of the Christian life.         
                 

Sunday, November 25, 2012

The Dangers of an Overemphasis on Athletics: Martha Irvine's "To Parents, Youth Sports an 'Athletic Arms Race'"

This article describes an overemphasis on athletics in our culture that impedes the spiritual, intellectual, and psychological growth of young people.  It provides a wake-up call that many parents need to hear.

To parents, youth sports an 'athletic arms race'

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MARTHA IRVINE | November 22, 2012 12:02 AM EST | AP

Shawn Worthy admits he's a competitive guy – and a competitive parent, sometimes.
Yet even he was floored when a couple of moms he met at a pro junior golf tournament told him that their teen daughters would be entered in 30 such events this past summer.
"Why are these young ladies out on the golf course playing competitively four or five days a week?" Worthy asked himself.
His own 16-year-old daughter, Soleil, holds down a job while participating in a few tournaments each summer. She and the other young women are good, Worthy says, maybe talented enough to play in college.
But 30 tournaments?
"If you're a future Olympian, I get it. But for these kids who will never reach that level, that's what I don't get," says Worthy, a professor at Metropolitan State University of Denver with an interest in sports psychology.
"What does it say about our culture that we go to this extreme?" he asks. "And that we push our kids to this extreme?"
It's not just golf. Many parents, coaches and researchers see a steady upping of the ante in youth sports, with kids whose families can afford the time and cost involved playing more, practicing more and specializing in one sport at younger ages.
Parents are driven by a desire to help their children stand out and the fear that, if they don't, their kids will be left behind. To keep pace, they're often traveling hundreds if not thousands of miles a year for games and tournaments. Some parents send their children to personal trainers, or to the growing number of "elite" training facilities that have opened in recent years.
Often, the goal is to simply land a spot on the local high school team, an accomplishment once taken for granted. Or, a young person may try to get on the roster in the growing private club team system – an even more exclusive route that some top teenage athletes are choosing, especially when high schools cut coaches and opportunities.
"It's an athletic arms race," says Scott VanderStoep, a psychology professor at Hope College in Holland, Mich., who studies youth sports.
And it starts early.
"It sort of spreads throughout the community and then it reduces down in age," VanderStoep says. "If it's OK for 14-year-olds, then it's OK for a 12-year-old, or a 10-year-old."
How can this obsession with playing sports exist in a country where the Centers for Disease Control say more than a third of young Americans are overweight or obese? The juxtaposition seems unlikely, but a longstanding survey from the National Sporting Goods Association found that youth participation in most team sports has steadily dropped in the last decade.
The number of 12- to 17-year-olds who played baseball in any kind of setting has, for instance, dropped 36 percent from 2001 to 2011, according to the survey. Basketball participation has dropped nearly 20 percent. Swimming and tackle football each dropped about 10 percent, volleyball participation 2 percent and soccer 1.4 percent.
Nonetheless, it would be oversimplifying to say the United States has become a nation of couch potatoes. Experts who track youth sports say many young people simply don't have the chance to play, or resources to do so.
Some schools in cash-strapped districts have cut back on sports and physical education. And even in some wealthier districts, high school populations have grown, leaving more kids to vie for fewer spots on teams.
These dwindling opportunities have only fed the hyper-competitive atmosphere, says VanderStoep, who admits that, as a dad of two daughters who play volleyball, even he feels beholden to the system.
For his daughters, that has meant weight-lifting camps and tournaments, required practices and schedules packed with games that could be any night of the week – and have made it more difficult for his youngest daughter to find the time to play other sports.
"You feel obligated to do it. You want to give your kids the opportunity," he says. "And if they don't show up, they lose opportunities to play."
Corinne Henson, a mom in suburban Chicago, knows about those hard choices. Her sons, 11-year-old Tyler and 14-year-old Dylan, play year-round baseball on different traveling teams and also manage to squeeze in basketball and football for their local park district.
The boys do it because they love it – live for it, really.
"I wouldn't give up sports for anything," Dylan says as he sits on the couch in his living room waiting for football practice to start.
"Me either," his younger brother quickly adds.
But there are sacrifices, especially for their parents. Time spent on sports has meant giving up their longtime campsite in Indiana where they'd kept a travel trailer. They simply have no time to go there. "Our vacations are baseball trips," Henson says.
The toughest compromise came in July when their town, Oak Forest, Ill., had a fundraiser for Dylan's best friend, who was seriously injured when he was hit by a hit-and-run driver. Dylan, a catcher who is captain of his traveling baseball team, had four tournament games that day. He decided he had to be at the tournament, and showed up at the fundraiser as it was wrapping up.
His friend understood. "I would have done the same thing," he told Dylan. The traveling team won the tournament, likely because Dylan stayed, his mom says.
"But it's so hard, as a parent."
There is, however, one rule in the Henson house that does not bend: "Homework first," says mom, who's a teacher.
And that's a perspective that Jon Butler, executive director of Pop Warner Little Scholars, an international youth football and cheerleading program, hears less and less.
He used to worry about overzealous coaches. But in more recent years, he's watched as parents have clamored to find ways to improve their children's athletic prowess. He says his advice to them – "don't hire a speed coach, hire a tutor" – is often met with disgust.
"It's not what they want to hear," he says.
Bill Jaworski, a dad who's also a youth baseball coach in New Jersey, says he is often "shocked and chagrined" at how easily some parents lose perspective about their kids' sports.
"These are people you see at the pub, or on the train, or out on the street. They're just normal folks – and then you get them to the game and they turn into these rabid freakazoids," says Jaworski, a philosophy professor at Fordham University.
He remembers learning baseball at the local park with friends or in the back yard. Today, he's seeing kids as young as age 7 learning the skills at elite training facilities, some that focus on specific sports and others on overall fitness.
Billy Hirschfield, now 16, was 11 when his dad first took him to an establishment called NX+Level, in Waukesha, Wis., a suburb of Milwaukee.
The atmosphere at NX+Level, can be intense.
Pro athletes train there. Signs on the gym walls say things like, "You can only be a winner if you are willing to walk over the edge."
But it was exactly the kind of atmosphere Billy craved back then, says his dad Ronnie Hirschfield. "He was a chunky kid, and he didn't like that," dad says.
Today, his son is a high school junior and varsity football player being recruited by major college football teams.
Now a 6-foot-6, 270-pound defensive tackle and end, he's so big and muscular – and so dedicated to his training – that his friends call him "the freak."
"I never in a million years thought it would be like that," says his dad, who figures he spends $8,000 to $10,000 a year on sports, including training and travel to tournaments.
But, he adds, "Why wouldn't you spend that on your son to make him a better person? And if he ends up walking away with a scholarship, it was the best investment I could have ever made."
Brad Arnett, the owner of NX+Level, knows there are those who question whether kids should train in his facility. But he makes it clear that they have to want to be there, as Billy did.
"We don't bring them in and work them until they puke," Arnett says. "There is a means to an end."
He says training in a club like his helps kids develop more strength and agility – and also avoid injury because they're in better shape.
But others think the training should be done in a different type of setting, with less emphasis on competitiveness.
"Things are going down a dangerous path," says David Finch, a certified strength and conditioning specialist who recently left his job as a school psychologist in Chicago to open his gym in Middleton, Wis., outside Madison.
If parents bring younger kids in, he often suggests learning a few overall fitness techniques and working on them at home.
He says the focus should be on fun and developing long-term healthy habits.
You'd be hard-pressed to find a parent who'd disagree with that. But with competition all around, parents don't just worry about a child's athletic career or getting into a good college. Many worry about getting them into a decent elementary school.
Sports can be seen as a way to set a kid apart from the pack.
"You try and build the perfect kid," says Adam Naylor, a clinical assistant professor of sports psychology at Boston University who works with parents and athletes, some as young as age 12.
And that, he adds, can lead to "overtraining, overuse and an over-committed kid, which has fallout."
As psychologist Wendy Grolnick sees it, that's just parents doing what they're wired to do – responding to a very primal instinct to protect their children and ensure their survival."Parents love their kids and they don't want them to miss out," says Grolnick, a professor at Clark University who wrote the book "Pressured Parents, Stressed-out Children: Dealing with Competition While Raising a Successful Child."
"There's just so much competition in the air," she says. "Very nice people are feeling this way."

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